How to deal with break-up!

It’s Funny how someone can break your heart, yet you still love them with all your pieces <3

Break-ups aren’t simple, easy or digestible for any of us. Not going into details of my experience let’s understand what is the easy way to deal with it.

You were together and so love, affection and attachment- all this is natural. But when you break-up pain and anger become dominant. These feelings don’t have to be controlled but need a better mode of expression.

Burn, throw and delete

You might think this is childish but it is the best thing to do. Delete the mails, burn the letters and those little notes and give away/throw away those gifts. This might sound harsh but do it anyways.

Unfriend, unfollow and block

You might be okay to see them later but not now. Now you need detachment. Social media detachment is super important because you don’t need to stay ‘updated’ anymore. It is best to block all their info for a while (atleast).

Read, party and enjoy your ‘Freedom’

Remember how you used to crib that you don’t get much time for yourself. Now there is surely and empty slot you can utilize for yourself. So why not! Go for it, and enjoy your freedom.

Sulking is a no-no

This is life and whatever happens happens. There isn't any point in sitting and sulking, crying, sobbing, shouting, feeling guilty ah..all those negative feelings. Go out with friends, meditate, exercise and #BeBetter

A little pool of tears and ah why did I love too much is okay

Yeah, I mean you cannot be totally ‘normal’, after all this is not how you imagined it would be. Be sad for a while and cry a little if you want.

And when nothing works…

Punch them on face and get some ice-cream

No! Would you do that? If it makes you feel good you should do that. Then again it is your choice, but I’ll love to know.. would you do that??!!

Break-ups aren’t easy but life moves on and it is better to look forward then to look back and cry J

When the past calls, let it go to the voice mail. It anyways doesn't have anything new to say.

Remember two things:

“You need to kiss thousand frogs to find a prince!”

And

“When the time is right, the right things just happen.”

Perfect song to end this:

Tweet it right baby!

There is a way of using twitter effectively than just tweeting random stuff! Read on to know more..

I love twitterverse (Check out the pic at the end and you'll know) and there is a reason to it. If you have read my 5 people who made me love twitter you will understand how without right guidance and communication on twitter either you end up quitting twiiter or use it in totally wrong way.

Life in twitterverse

5 important things about twitter:

Hey I just followed you and this is crazy, here’s my DM reply me may be: Sending a DM right after getting a followback is not a good practice. It is better to have some tweet to tweet talk before opting for DMs.

**Statuary warning: DM after followback can be irritating and can lead to unfollow or block!

Following each other doesn't mean you are friends (read long lost friends): Communication is the key. Following someone doesn't make him/her your friend. It needs “right” kind of communication, sharing, mutual respect and “x-factor” (the friendship might or might not click without any reason) to become friends.

Read my blog mentions: Some relations are just limited to “Read my #newpost” requests. Sharing is good, it is the base of blogging life but just share-my-content or read-my-content requests are irritating and can showcase you in a totally wrong way. It is always good to initiate some conversation too.

It’s not about holding on, it’s about moving on: If someone does not want to communicate, don’t force. You can ask once or may be twice and when it doesn’t work be a grown up and move on. The twitterverse is vast and there are many more twiends still waiting for you to find them J

Your tweet is valuable: Instead of tweeting anything, filling the TL with #Drunkedtweets on weekends and just vending out negative feeling use twitter to share something “Share-worthy”. There is so much of important and really good content out there which can lift your moods, help someone’s business or can do some good, go ahead share that!

So what do you think is important to be a good tweeter? J

Happy tweeting!

Happy blogging!

Cheers to beautiful life J

Turning 25!! Silver jubilee of life ;)

Though turning 24, 25 or 26 is not a big deal because every day of life has to be a celebration. Still, I love this ‘the day’ because well, yeah I arrived at this lovely planet to meet you all on this day J

Here are 25 things about life as I turn 25!

1. “Life is beautiful” – This is my favourite quote and I believe in it.
2. Everything is possible if there are hope and faith.
3. If something doesn't go right even if you have given it your best, it is God’s way of saying, “No, not now!”
4. If you love it, you’ll find a way to do it.
5. Travelling makes you richer at heart.
6. People you meet, people you interact with have an impact on you which is more than one.
7. You won’t be always right. But then no one is.
8. Taking up the challenge to overcome your fear can make you realize that there was no reason to be afraid anyway.
9. Do not suppress yourself; do not try to change, not even in a relationship. Because one day your true self will come out and you will not know what to do.
10. If you think an incident didn't teach you anything, you are wrong. Retrospect!
11. You don’t have to worry about what others think. All you need to understand is how you feel about ‘it’.
12. No one is self-made. People who helped you to be where you are should always be given the credit.
13. Magical things grow out of unlikely beginnings.
14. Everyone feels low at some point. Don’t be afraid of shedding some tears. Remember, bounce back!
15. Follow the ones who inspire and be friends with the one who is positive.
16. If you cannot help someone say goodbye to their negativity, restrain yourself to ‘hi-hello’.
17. Life is a cake-walk for someone, is a myth.
18. If you don’t tell them what you want, they’ll not know.
19. Wasting your time talking about other people, leads to wasting of the amazing ideas which would have come into your mind if you were not gossiping.
20. You are movies you watch, songs you listen, books you read and the food you eat. Almost.
21. Food is an expression of love <3
22. Gratitude is more important than attitude.
23. Life isn't very simple but again you are not supposed to solve the math puzzle at every step.
24. Nothing comes for ‘Free’, never.
25. Things happen when they are least expected.

This is what I've learned and well, there is a lot to learn. I met all of you somewhere somehow in these 25 years and I’m grateful to each one of you J

Yes!! It is time to party Ganagnam Style J

If you are gonna leave a comment please tell me what do you think about me :P

Cheers!!

Love is all you need

I crave a love so deep that the ocean will be jealous ♥

When I hear someone saying this is "true love" I wonder.. "True love" ?? Now, what is true love? Is love true and fake? For me love is love.

Sometime back a friend tweeted "You do not fall in love, you rise in love!"

My instant reaction was "YES" and so I retweeted and replied and hence a little long conversation started.

There is a lot said about love, there are quotes, stories, novels and movies and what not! Still, we have a lot more to say, a lot more to express and a lot more to feel.

Well, when a topic is raised there are arguments and counter-arguments, it is the same with love.

What is love?
The question itself is complicated and then we have come up with yet another concept "True Love"
We also try to classify if love is good or bad.
I feel love cannot be bad, destructive or harmful. It is the combination of other feelings along with love which make it negative. (jealousy, lust etc)



Love to me:

When I get up; when I open my eyes,
My only wish is to see you sleeping beside,
Every day of my life, I want to start with a kiss;
I know that same is your wish,
For the rest of my life having tea in the same mug;
When we depart to meet again a tight hug,
Except you, there are no thoughts at all
Being with you I have realised,
Love is where you can only rise,
When you get drowned in it and let yourself have a free fall.

People might say that love is blind, but I  know love sees and just doesn't mind! ~ Sam


♥♥The love song I am playing on loop♥♥

You're the apple to my pie

You're the straw to my berry

You're the smoke to my high

And you're the one i wanna marry. cuz your the

1 4 me and im the 1 4 you.you take the both of us .We're the perfect 2.

My twitter-sister @arpitaappu also has a little poem about love knocking at her door:  Love Knocked on my Heart

Share your thoughts on love!

Cheers to the beautiful life!

I can really use a wish right now

Can we pretend that airplanes In the night sky Are like shooting stars

I could really use a wish right now (wish right now, wish right now)

A new post after a long time!!

So how have you been?

Lately I find myself using a phrase a lot.. “How I wish”.. Oh yes.. only if wishes came so say.. but they don’t and still we “wish”.. We live by hope and faith and without these two magical words life will lose its meaning! Won’t it?

When you say you wish, think deeper.. do you really? If you do, rise and plan to achieve what you wish for because that is how this “I wish” takes a new shape of “I will” and then “I will” into “I have” J and if you cannot dare to do that quit saying “I wish” because no one on the earth comes turn your wishes into reality J

I stand at the horizon of wordlessness

With a shoe-box full of wishes in words abstract

Feelings I have can’t be expressed

I know not my path but I hope

I know not my path but I have faith

I know not if they will come true but I will work

I know not if I would be through but I know it’s worth

If I don’t work today tomorrow I might regret

Regrets that might be deep, the one’s I won’t ever forget

I have time, it’s not late I know I can shine bright

I will turn my wishes into reality and show how I did the things right!

Till then I have only one thing to say!

"Dear dandelions, eye lashes and shooting stars; please do your job well" J

Don't say "I wish" say "I will" and do it! - Sam

iWish, no there is no app for it you need to do it on your own! - Sam

Some people want it to happen.. Some people wish it would happen..and some make it happen..!!! -  ‏@FunduFundas

One Bad wish for someone costs your thousands Blessings -  ‏@WildOrc14053315

My latest favourite song on wish :)

 Cheers to beautiful life!! 

Smiles..

May your wishes come true! <3 

Finding love (I love the guys who work out!)

Falling in love with eyes is easier, but you understand it with your ears!-~Sam 

When I was in class 6^th I was a mad Salman Khan fan, then came Arjun Rampal, Milind Soman, Muzamil Ibrahim, Rahul Khanna and many more.  Then in college I had this small poster of Beckham on my wall and he looked amazing! One common thing about these guys is that they work out.  They all look fit (LOOK)! I know none of them is perfect but still they are doing something good with their body.

Liking a guy: When a girl looks at a guy, few things run in her mind without her knowledge.  Female brain thinks in terms of offspring. Will she like to have a kid who is exactly like this guy? If the answer is yes she goes ahead. Then as they come to know each other, she thinks; will she like her offspring to have these good/bad qualities? If the answer is yes goes ahead. Then the question is, can she bear one more person exactly like this one? If the answer is yes she will go ahead.

About the girl who want to change the guy:

“Purpose of love is not to change you but to improve you as a person”-~ Sam

Girl's thought process!

If someone is trying to change you even though you are good/right, she is not the one for you. But if she is doing it for better, i.e., grooming you or improving you in someway ..she is the one!

Take time to understand!

Why do I like the guys who work-out?

Well not exactly the ones who work out but the ones who take time out for themselves, take care of themselves. Because it is the sign that they care about themselves and they love themselves  J

“Only the one who loves and cares about self can love someone else.” -~ Sam

One who is not ‘happy’ alone cannot be happy with someone too.

So go out, travel, work out, find time for yourself, love yourself and you will find love!

Cheers!!

Note : I'm chubby but I meditate, eat healthy, practice yoga, walk. When I say work-out I do not intend to say anything about shape, it is the wellness factor that matters.

Cleaning the clutter

"Eliminate physical clutter. More importantly, eliminate spiritual clutter." D.H. Mondfleur 

My weekend was pretty busy. I decided to do some cleaning! I thought, ‘how long can it take to clean such a small room?!’.. But well, what was I thinking?? I started at 10:30 a.m. and the cleaning went on till 1:30 p.m.

Cleaning the clutter takes you back in to the memory lane. . . Reminding you of memories buried deep down. As I opened my cupboard, I found old dairies, notes and chocolate wrappers.. Some lines now looked so deep that I was wondering..’My, my..Did I write that!!’ But well yes, I did J

As I was going through some old stuff I realized I was hoarding a lot of baggage which I need to let go.

Letting go is one difficult thing. When you prepare your heart to let something go the pain, the burden is enormous. It is like letting go a part of you. As difficult as it might be, once done you feel very light and yes, you create some space for new things. That is life, pain; holding on to old things gives us pain, burden and nothing else. On the other hand letting it go can make you a happier person. After all life is about moving on, on fastrack :P

When I was done cleaning and walking down the memory lane; I prepared my heart to say good bye to the old stuff which needed to go. Once it was gone, I was happy.

Understand: Life is about cleaning your clutter, moving on, leaving the baggage behind and looking forward. Do not hold to the things which might make you sad, be it relationships, people, things.. Or you will always walk with a burden which will tire you in long run, will make you slow and will never let you feel light and happy.

Hope you take time to clean your clutter soon J

Cheers!!

Future Predictions

I write about the future,

I Make the predictions.

Not tomorrow or the next day..

I say what will happen in coming years..

2012? 2020? No!! its about 2100 :)

The dogs will be huge and they will have majestic tails..

The fishes will eat up all the whales..

The sky would be orange..

And sunflower will be a fruit..

Things will be strange..

And cats will wear boots..

My predictions are logical..

The logic you will never understand..

I was always very practical..

I experimented with sand..

Future is unsure 

Today is what we have 

Future is illusion..

Present is what HE gave..

So be good and stay happy..

Forget all that you read..

Future is fake, today is great..

By the time you realise you would be dead..

Cheers to the beautiful life..:))

A walk with a stranger

A walk with a stranger

I am a kind of person who has been guyzoned, sometimes desired, a lot of times proposed and a lot of times told that I must change my way of living..my behaviour because it can send wrong signals. Well we can never alter our basic nature and my basic nature is super frank, friendly a bit helpful and well.. I carry my smile everywhere I go.. (ha ha that is me for you :P)

Strange life..we walk with strangers and become friends and we walk away from friends and become stranger.

I met him with all my enthusiasm , a stranger .I was thrilled..excited .. happy in a different way. We had only spoken on phone and yet I felt connected. Meeting could have changed it all.. and well it did. That meeting with the stranger was perfect and happiest moment of my life..

I was walking and someone asked me the way... I din't look I was typing some message all I said was. "Come"..and kept on walking..He followed..Once my messaging work was over I looked at him. I thought he was young and fit enough to match my pace. He thought I belonged to that place..Well he was wrong its just I am an explorer and that is the reason I knew all the routes.. As we started talking it came out that he was suppose to meet someone and he was from mumbai. He asked me what I did and I told him , in haphazard manner that I write and do social media marketing. Then it was my turn to ask..I was surprised..the guy was a Tech Architect had 14yrs of experience in IT industry and was doing business since past two years!! Suddenly I realised that his breath was catching , yes he was a bit old to walk at that pace and I slowed down.. In the end we shook hands and he said I was a lively, fun person and well 'God Bless You'..

From there I was again to meet some stranger..who was going to be way different than the above two.. Again it was good. A little chat and exchange of ideas is always fun.. (Great minds discuss ideas they say :P)

Life is all about meeting strange opportunities, strange conditions, strange people and a lot of strange things not all of them make you happy .. not all of them make you smile.. Strangely some unexpected stranger can change it all and the strangeness vanishes.. Strange but true!

How has been your meeting with strangers??  <let me be clear stranger is not equal to a blind date!!!>

P.S : Meet strangers at your own risk.. I too am one :))

Cheers!!!

Romance in the air??

Sometimes you just feel Happiness surrounding and the romance in the air. Recently I read somewhere that you cannot spell R-O-M-A-N-C-T-I-C with out a M-A-N.. Funny I thought:):)

When we are kids we know nothing about what exactly this feeling is. With time we learn. MTFL>> My true first love.. may be true for some and not for others but with the course of time we meet many people and have different feelings about them. Some feelings that we suppress and some that we express.

I still remember my first crush!! Derek o'brien !! One brainy still good looking guy who hosted Bournvita quiz contest. This was followed by Ajay Jadeja, Milind soman, Arjun Rampal, Bhaichung Bhutia, someone from school and some neighbour and brother's friend and so on:) Initially it is sweet, you smile , you blush and have that adrenaline gush...its just beautiful and then with time it either goes or increases. If it goes well and good but if it stays complications begin. Then you check whether it is mutual or not and if it is then would you like to take it forward or not and if you take it forward and things become serious how long will they go on etc etc counts:)

But still feeling that romance in the air is an amazing feeling. Today I have nothing more to say.

Romance is good when it makes you glow, don't waste your time in relationships that make you feel low. - Sam

May favorite line : Hey I know you, I have walked with you in my dreams :)

A song which has stung me and is making me smile again and again...

" O boy O boy you have made me mad
I am love head over heels all over again
Expressing the feelings is hard and yes I am afraid
But I want to hold your hand and walk in the rain
Why don't you feel it and take the lead instead
Ask me out and make me smile and release my pain "
-  Sam


My Romance board : Love You Forever

Have you felt that gush,  that romance in the air for no reason? Something which made you smile still you couldn't figure out what...:):)

That is an amazing feeling, trust me!!

Cheers!!!

Step 1 to Online marketing career

Online marketing

India : There are two types of companies
1. Where they believe work should be fun
2. formal , strict and nothing new

If you are looking for social media career filled with happiness first step would be to find the companies falling in 1st category. Quite a task I would say.

Now if you are a fresher in this field and have no related degree then there has to something you need to know.

1. You should be super social
2. You should read and understand how soical media works
3. You should be genuinely interested

Trust me if the point 3 is true for you 1 and 2 are going to come on their own.

Remember : Begginers have it hard.

Your compensation will not be so high in the start but with the time it wil rise significantly if you are really good.

What should you learns for starters:
1. Effective mass mailing
2. How Facebook Marketing works
3. How to generate leads on twitter

You should probably have your own blog too to show on your resume.

When all this is done.. go out on to the job portals search for the key words and start applying. Attach a nice resume which shows your true abilities. Within few days you will definitely start getting offers.

Its simple. All its needs is passion.

Cheers! If there is something more you will like to know.. just ask:)

Finding your inner-self

MY 10 days in silence!!


For all who know me might be surprised seeing the title. 10 days in silence!! This girl can't stay mum for  minute.. Yes, I love talking and singing and even jumping but once I had a chance to stay silent for 10 days and those 10 days changed a lot.

Depression comes in without knocking and sometimes its right there inside you feeding on you, growing on you and trying to crack the walls of your belief and break you. But those who can heal the cracks and paint their souls again are the winners..

I had just completed my class 12th and had a lot of free time in hand before the results. I decided to go and attend a Vipashyana camp. I was hoping to go there since class 6 and finally I had a chance! So I called them up, reserved my seat, packed my bags and was ready to go out alone without a cell phone or a book or any cosmetic or even a diary or eatables. When I reached there I got a chance to talk to few others who like me were ready to explore their inner-self..and then *poof* our speaking rights were taken along with all the valuables and money! Thus began a new journey.

The days passed in meditation and a strict routine. Initially it was okay but then it started becoming difficult. For how long can you chat with yourself after all. I even slept off in one specific dark room meditation. (Well you are alone in a dark room, you have a mattress, how can you resist that temptation) Whenever I use to see anyone else I would fold my arms and smile and they would reciprocate. All this and no dinner!

There were moments when I wanted to run away, there were nights I could not sleep, there was time I said , "I don't want to eat this food"..But then there were moments when I feel peace, I could feel change and I could feel the happiness everywhere:):)

I dint realize that 10 days passed so quickly. I had learned a lot and even though I had not spoken with the people there, there was strong connection and we cried when we exchanged good byes.

What did I learn :

• See, feel but do not react. 
• Send the positive vibes to each and everyone you know and they will come back to you. 
• Anger is not the solution nor is it avoidable every time but take a deep breath and answer "Is it worth it?"
• We are born every sec as a tissue in us dies and new is formed.
• We have chance to change from the moment we want to.
• The power to change is within.

Love.Peace.Happiness

If you want to know anything more about the meditation or my stay at this camp, I would love to answer:)

Cheers!!

Keylogger for windows

Keylogger  builds a log of all the keys we press on our keyboard. This log can later be reviewed to keep a check on the activities happening on a particular system. The bright side is that it can help in trouble shooting and analyzing employee productivity etc but on the darker side it can be used to hack someone's account for personal gains. Sounds horrible, doesn't it? But it can be helpful in knowing that what happens on your system behind your back and monitoring your system when you have kids is a good idea because we want them to be safe. A keylogger can be a hardware or a software.

Here is a list of keyloogers you can use according to your needs.

1. Family keylogger

It is invisible and works in the background recording every keystroke a user makes. It also tracks the launch of applications, sent e-mails and visited websites. It is small in size and is for low system requirements. In case the system is not responding it is capable of removing itself from the task list. Is is a little file with many possibilities.

2. Light keylogger

It works on Windows, Vista and XP. It can run on stealth mode and hence it is undetectable. Multi-lingual support lets you use it in any of the 6 languages like English, Spanish, Italian, French, Deutsch or Portuguese. It can also save screen captures in intervals you select along with monitoring of applications being used.

3. IwantSoft's Free Keylogger

As the name suggests it is free :) It can track and record keystrokes, clipboard activity, and Net surfing on individual PCs or networks (with administrative access). Report for activity on any day can be generated by clicking on date and other specifications. There is no 'help' option available in this software so you might need to use the information on internet to use it.

4. Revealer Keylogger

I has a simple interface and records the keystrokes and other activities in txt format. It does not store snapshots but can log any language. It can be seen active on the task managers.

5. All in one keylogger

This is an all-in-one spy program. It intercepts everything entered from keyboard and monitors internet navigation. It also scans windows clipboards for changes and monitors the screen. It consumes less system resources and is invisible.

Do you use a keylogger? Do you think using a keylogger is a good option for monitoring the activities on your system while you are away? We would love to know about other keyloggers from you!

6 steps to happiness

Happiness is not just state of mind, it is state of heart and soul

1. Create : You saw that DIY on pinterest, or on a blog or anywhere.. you liked it? Try it..The outcome might not be as beautiful as the picture you saw but this will definitely give you sense of achievement..and a smile. And if it turns out good, that is a bonus! Share it with others, share your smile and you will be happy.

There is nothing wrong in trying :)

2. Socialize : Yes, in today's world we all do it. But the key is to socialize with right people, full of life, positivity and that glow will makes us glow too. My mother always told me if you want to feel good,  be with positive people. When I say socialize, I do not mean only on networking sites. Go out, meet people, connect, share and most importantly observe and listen.
A sweet poem about friend : A friend, an angel by @Arpitaappu

F.R.I.E.N.D.S

3. Gift yourself a little something once in a while : It can be a holiday, a spa treatment, a nice meal at your favorite food joint or just an ice cream. The size or gift does not matter, the important thing is it should give you that #FeelGood factor.

Sweet Pleasure

4. Walk : Or better walk in the rain:) Walking calms you, it fights depression and makes you healthy too. Here is my pinterest board of "Lets walk".. You will feel happy by looking at the photos too:)

Photograph by urban prairie

5. Look at old photographs : Photographs are the happy moments that we capture and looking at them reminds us of that happiness. Maybe it will tempt you to call an old friend and here you go : happiness multiplied :)

1yr old Me :)

5. Do not stop yourself from expressing good feelings : Feel like singing: sing, feel like jumping: jump, dance, laugh, scream your joy out. We hardly think before expressing our anger then why should we think before expressing our happiness? Things need to be other way round. Sometimes the place might not permit you to express freely at that time just text your happiness to a loved one.

Sometimes happiness is right outside your window, you just need to look out:)

So what makes you happy?


Cheers to beautiful life:)

Happiness multiplies by spreading

"The reflection of the Sun on my window"

 Every morning is a message from the universe that you have one more day to shine. Make  the most of it.

"When it was raining"

If rain cannot bring a smile to your face, its time to look for the lost child inside you.

Bannerghatta National park bangalore

Love, care and affection is an emotion beyond just human..

"Sparkling wine"

A good wine can always life you mood.. :)

Books are little bundles of joy..

If you do not enjoy reading perhaps you are doing it wrong - Unknown

"Love in nature"
Love is everywhere , sometimes you need to close your eyes and open your heat to see it..

Up you go and light you become..
leave your worries and see the joy come..
Everyone is struggling you are not the only one..
Still life is about surviving
Life is about having fun...

Keep calm and eat cake

Masala Chai (tea): without this the journey of life is incomplete..

When the sun sets.. take a moment and have a look at it.. fell the peace and move on... I love doing that:)

Make a wish , pray a bit.. thank for all you have  and share a smile!

"Find happiness in everything, fruit, flowers, and more"

I am not crazy, I just love to smile, share ..if you don't do that you haven't lived up to your potential !



Cheers to beautiful life..spread smiles
Quotes and Photography by Sneha Mehta :)