The little girl was playing with food bowl. She carried it
to her dad and grandmother said, “Good she is preparing herself for future!”
Which future I wonder!
Who are we to define a two-year-old’s future?
Yes! We are nobody to decide. We have no business here.
Root Cause?
Mothers! Ah mothers love their kids so much.. they want the
best for them. Still most of moms who are inclined towards their sons or well,
have only sons tend to do something terrible, a well.. out of love though.. They
train them to be dependent. They train them NOT to cook. The sister is taught
cooking even if she is younger and the brother eats.. ummm..mostly..
The result:
When you get into a relationship or marriage … being a girl
you are EXPECTED to cook and TAKE CARE of the household.
I wonder who made this rule.
I know.. I know.. you will things are changing and all that
bull-shit…Or may be things are better than they were..
But is that all we want? I mean.. BETTER that is all we aim
for?
Damn! Nope.. Hell no.. We should aim for what is right..
That is what we should aim for..
Dear Mothers
Don’t train your son to eat delicacies, train to cook some.
Don’t make them feel it is their right to GET things and kitchen is a place of
female domination. Tell them their Dad is WRONG in not helping you in your
household duties. Tell them how difficult it has been for you to manage. Once
in a while instead of feeding them with aloo parathas ask them to make some
rotis for you. Teach them what is RIGHT and not what has been going on since
generations.
A girl on the other hand gets soooo used to doing all the
stuff that she thinks she can be a super-woman.
She is made to believe that she is supposed to do it all and that she
has to be perfect. She is told that she is the one who has to balance work and
family. She is supposed to do it without asking WHY!
Let me ask you WHY? Please leave your answer in the comment…
If you are a guy and you can make decent rotis- I respect you, I <3 you!! J
Perfect, my mother says the same what you said, and yes I know how to make roti and a few basic things at least ;)
ReplyDeleteKudos to you! I know it is changing and it is getting better but well.. better isn't the need of time yaar.. We need CHANGE!
DeleteMumma sahi bolti hain, regards to her :)
Cheers!!
Proud to have friends like you!
I'm an 18 year old Indian girl, and I first came across this mind-set (that the girl is EXPECTED to take care of things at home - cooking and cleaning, in a marriage)when I was 17 - it sort of shook my world. But then I guess it was because I took the person too seriously .. :/ But now I see that my perception of things is more important to me. It's my life after all :) It's your life. Just do what makes you happy, not something you're forced to do. And I've seen than, maybe I will learn to take care of someone else in due time (by choice) but for now I just want to learn how to take care of me:)
ReplyDeleteHeh heh. Sort of got off track here. Sorry :D
Sounds perfect looking at need of the hour..learning time for most of the boys..and its no big deal for any boy as they complain...I am a boy too and I know how to cook almost every Indian dish and that too with great taste...I used to cook regular in my college days and do some times now as well !!
ReplyDeleteI am a guy and for the past 6 years I have making my own food which includes Rotis also I am really that I can
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